On the other hand, a pessimist observes what is not in the glass – the half empty because he focuses on what he doesn’t have. When we always think of what we don’t have and what we are losing, we never feel happy. Furthermore, negative thinking can take a lot of time and too much emotional energy, which absolutely does not lead to a happy life. In addition, positive thinking makes us have a feeling of excitement about something pleasant or exciting that we know is going to happen. Such a feeling is anticipation.No matter what our circumstances are, if we have something to look forward to, we bring happiness into our life well before the event actually takes place. In fact, sometimes the happiness of anticipation is greater than the happiness of the actual experience itself.
With this in mind, we may say if the future holds no pleasant promise – it’s very hard to be happy. However, sometimes unrealistic anticipation may get us lost. So we need to simplify in order to stay positive. This is my second key to a happy life – simplification. Every day we often rush through things, trying to get them done, trying to finish as much as we can.We pass quickly through one destination and then move into the next. At the end of each day, we’re probably too exhausted and too stressed out to even notice the simple things that can make us happy.
For example, maybe some of us have such experience. When we travel to the other cites or countries with tour group, we are always fully scheduled. Each day we have to see a lot of places and we are only allowed to stay at each place for 30 minutes or at most one hour just for taking some pictures. We have to hurry from one spot to the next.At the end of the tour, we only feel tired and remember which places we have looked around but have no idea how beautiful they are. However, if we put away the tour group and cut the schedule in half, stay longer at each place, enjoy every moment at ease. That would be another story.
So, when we simplify our life, we have time for what’s important to us, for what we really want to be doing, for spending time with loved ones, for doing things we’re passionate about. That’s a happy life. Finally, people can’t live alone and isolated. We must have our social life. Social life includes friends and family.Ancient philosophers and modern scientists agree that strong relationships with other people are critical to a happy life. We need close, long-lasting relationships; we need a place to belong to; we need to give and receive support – perhaps surprisingly, giving support is just as important to happiness as getting support.
These 3 keys of happiness are beliefs that I hold and they have worked for me in the past and they work for me now. I sincerely hope these 3 simple and easy to apply keys can also work for all of you. My wish is for all of us to have a happy life and enjoy it!